If you said to anyone “would you like to have better and more explosive orgasms” I think the 100% answer would be “Hell yea!” – so here are my tips for you to experience explosive orgasms.
But before I give you the tips let me first explain its relationship to Tantra. Tantra is a modern spiritual practise (with its roots in Buddhism) that uses your sexual energy to realise different states of consciousness. What does that mean? Well like any form of meditative practice it requires mindfulness. Orgasm, apart from the human ‘pleasure’ experience of orgasm, can be used to give us deeper and expanded senses of our human self. In that ‘expansion’ lies a deeper state of awareness, that can be called consciousness. Hence the moment you bring the state of awareness to any practice, that for me is the start of a spiritual practice. So Tantra is all about awareness and is reputed to be one of the fastest pathways to Enlightenment.
OK, so onto the top tips. Whether you are on your own or with another person, these tips and techniques will help you to move from mediocre experiences to earth moving explosions.
Tip 1: Breath – I know you are going to say “duh!” we all have to breath to live, but what I mean here is what I call “connected breathing”. Bringing your mind to where your breath is. In my opinion the most effective meditation in the whole of Tantra is just to focus on the breath … from there magic can happen …. Stay with me here …..
Tip 2: Sound – In our western culture we are all too often told to “keep quiet”, “be silent” and nowhere else does that play out more than in sex. Often if sexual partners make noise, the other person can become distracted, worry about what the neighbours might say. In our culture we carry so much shame about expressing physical sexual sensations that for me this is the biggest orgasm killer. When we repress ourselves and repress our experience we become less, we become smaller and the action we are doing becomes more insignificant resulting in an experience of “why did I even bother”. How many times have you masturbated, that you felt afterwards “what was the point of that”, or had a feeling that it did not even touch you?
Ok, so this tip is about making sound, yes you can move it to screaming orgasms later, but here I want you to practice letting your jaw drop and making an “aaaaaaahhhhhhhh” sound. One of the meditative exercises that I practice is to stand naked, and then to slowly start to ever so gently caress your body, with your fingertips, and to express the sensation in your body with an “aaaaahhhhhhh” sound. So that however it feels you are expressing it with an “aaaaaaaahhhhhhh” sound. With practice this meditative practice can have the experiences of orgasm shooting through your body even before you’ve started to touch your genitals.
What you should notice in doing this is that your experience is much more amplified. That what you feel is more than. Just the simple act of making sound makes the experience bigger. As you become more excited you’ll notice the “aaaaahhhhhhssss” turn into more grunts of excitement.
Tip 3: Move – the next part to amplify your orgasm is to move your body with the experience. Gently moving your hips. Allow your body to move as you stimulate yourself. As you breathe, make sound, and move your body to express the sensations in your body, you will notice that the experience is much greater. As you caress yourself, as you stroke yourself, allow your body to move with the experience, focus on the breath and the sound – Magic! You’ll be on your way to heaven in no time.
Play with these basics whether on your own, or during sex. What you’ll notice is that feeling of expanded Orgasm.
Tip 4: Focus Attention – so as you are stimulating yourself, pay attention to where the sensations are in your body, and join the sensation. Don’t be an observer to your experience but instead allow yourself to really meet the sensations in your body. Bring to your awareness how you cock feels as you stroke it, how your breath is, how all the different sensations are in your body. Whatever your experience, stay with the sensation. What you will notice is that you have a much more conscious memories of your experience.
Tip 5: Play & Delay – Statistically men ejaculate within 15 mins of sexual play whether with themselves or with others. My joke (I apologise in advance) is that number is derived by 2 hours for gay men and 2 mins for hetero men ….. hahahahaha …. I’m sorry. Ok, but my point here is to delay or don’t ejaculate …. Maybe change your mindset from ‘getting it over with’ to having a play session. Allow yourself to explore your physical body, to explore your nipples, your buttocks. How does it feel to stroke your cock and play with your nipples at the same time as using the techniques I’ve listed above? Maybe consider stroking the bud of your anus at the same time, or stroke your inner thighs. But above all allow your time to “Pay & Delay”.
You might choose to cum, you might choose to not. If you choose not to, what you will find is that you feel more energised in your day, and with continued practice of raising sexual energy and not ejaculating, you’ll notice that you feel lighter in mood, more alive, and happier because you have more energy.