Relationships

6 Ways to Meet Gay Men that Don’t Require Apps

Over the past 10 years I’ve been in a number of relationships, each of which began in a unique way. From the antiquated approach of creepily sending a friend request on Facebook to someone I didn’t know personally, to pursuing dates with what should have just been a Grindr hookup, I have met gay guys…

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How We Couple: Do We Need Multiple Partners Or Deeper Intimacy?

Whether you’re married with kids or living your best single life there’s no guidebook for gay coupling. In real estate, queer people are called urban pioneers because we discover new neighborhoods and moves places others would not. Similarly, we are on the bleeding edge creating our unique types of relationships. Sure, as queer men, it’s…

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6 Ways to Survive A Breakup

Negotiating a break-up is never easy, I think that’s something I’m sure we can all agree on. But there’s no rule saying we have to be a prize-winning douche bag to extricate ourselves from a formerly well-functioning relationship. So how does one avoid these well-trodden paths of bad behavior? Here are a few top tips…

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Swimming Through the Queen Pool

An underrated issue with being gay is that our pool for friends, sex partners, and romantic interests is the same body of water. At times, it can feel like a kiddie pool with a scarcity of opportunities. Other times, it’s like an ocean that forcefully overwhelms us. How do we graciously and gracefully navigate this…

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Queer People Ignoring Social Distancing to Hook-up

Around two in 10 queer people would consider hooking-up with someone even as measures to curb the coronavirus pandemic includes strict social distancing. The coronavirus pandemic has redefined day-to-day living for countless people as lockdowns and pleas to minimise contact with other people are enforced by world leaders. While the virus’ death toll bears down on all,…

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Gay couple marry in their NYC apartment during coronavirus lockdown

With the coronavirus pandemic prompting lockdowns across the world, and marriage ceremonies being outright canceled in several regions, some couples are rushing to tie the knot. Such was the case with partners Mitch and Brian, who live in New York City – which has emerged as a COVID-19 hotspot in the US. View this post…

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Have Dating Apps Changed How We Talk To Each Other?

Written by Christian Cintron for The Authentic Gay Picture it: you’re at your local gay watering hole and see an insanely attractive guy. After a fair amount of soul searching you muster up the courage to walk up to him. You lean in and smile. Before you can manage a “Hello” he yells, “Show me…

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A Modern Gay Love Story

Written by: Katherine Myers for Narratively You’re at a dinner party. You’re attracted to someone sitting across the table. You ask them out on a date. You start doing everything together. You fall in love. You’re exclusive. You move in together. You’re a couple for three years. You want to get married. You live in…

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Dating two people at once: why I’m polyamorous and proud

Written by Simon Copland This is my coming out story. My second one. When I was 16 years old, I first came out as gay. Coming out then was hard but this time is much harder. This revelation is something I am more fearful about, but I have to come out. I am polyamorous. I am…

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Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?

Hint:  It will take a lot of work. As a couples counselor working with gay men I am often asked my opinion on monogamy and open LGBTQ relationships. What works for men in long-term relationships? First, the research. Several research studies show that about 50% of gay male couples are monogamous and about 50% allow…

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Gay couple divorced because one is a Nicki Minaj fan & the other loves Cardi B

A married gay couple divorced on TV following a dispute over their different love of two female rappers: Cardi B and Nicki Minaj. The two rappers have notoriously feuded in public, and the two men argued over which rapper started the conflict. That argument was so bad that it led to divorce. A recent episode…

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When Is It Appropriate to Ask Your Date if He’s a Top, Bottom, or Vers?

Written by: Bobby Box Sexual chemistry is important for any relationship. But for gay men, determining if you’re sexually compatible requires you to ask a very personal question: “Are you a top, bottom, or vers?” Because dating is outrageously nuanced and there is no set of rules to abide by (multiply that by 10 if…

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